The month is still new, the year is new, and yet much of your enthusiasm for your New Year’s resolutions is gone. You may be wondering why it is that your follow-through has lost its direction. Do you feel ineffectual in your efforts to improve your significant relationships, your resilience and focus at work or your ability to weather the impact of these uncertain times? Are you looking toward others to determine why things are unfolding as they are or to hold them responsible?
Regardless of the external factors which may be impinging on your life, the answers to your problems, issues and challenges are to be found within you. Your division has undergone major losses in spite of your individual success at meeting and exceeding your quota. Your boss has had his budget cut resulting in your being responsible for two sets of job descriptions without additional compensation. Your company has been taken over or is at risk of dissolution. Your current job may be over in the near future. How do you being to problem-solve when you identify the core of the problem as being outside of you?
How you identify a challenge and your particular style of reacting or responding to it provides tremendous insight and information regarding your functioning on many levels. In spite of all objective data to the contrary is your glass always half-empty? When the odds are against you are you able to find possibilities when others see a dead-end? Do you turn setbacks into opportunities that provide you with insight for growth and development?
You have learned to address these situations as you do through a variety of experiences, many of which you were completely unaware of, some you were actively participating in. Do you feel that these patterns of repetition are set in stone? Would you like to learn how to improve your functioning across a broad spectrum of behaviors, to enrich your relationships and to realize your potential? These possibilities can become your reality; they are within you.
Through emotional relearning and the reconditioning of your autonomic nervous system you can become more successful in life on a variety of levels. What you see in others and long for in yourself can be integrated into your life. This does not come from a source outside of you, but rather emanates from within you. As you alter negative perspectives and the behaviors they often fuel, you can see the kind of change that leads to more successful functioning.
If you would like to discuss this or related concerns, feel free to call Dr. Maryann Schaefer at (516)627-1145 for a complimentary consultation.